Why no is the most important word

Let's do a little 'Feelings and Emotion' Experiment. 

Read the following and try to focus on your feelings. What do the word establish in your emotional body? Here we go.

Dear You.Everywhere there are opportunities. Everywhere there are chances. Everywhere you should open up and be open to the world an the other self. Everywhere we should learn to live in harmony and a prosperous life will follow.



Won’t happen.



What happened in your mind seeing the first NO?

How did you feel I said NO?





Feeling like you didn’t do the right thing by reading this article?

Feeling like you’re 4 years old again?

And…What happened in your emotional body after you saw the word: ‘sorry?’

And again: what happened in your physical body after you saw: ‘won’t happen?’

‘No’ is a powerful word. Just as powerful as ‘Yes’ but in a different way.

No blocks. It makes the energy stop running.

No restrains. It makes the mind going to another place.

No makes status and difference.

No means you’re the chef and I am not.

No gives a BOUNDARIE.

No is a clear and well cut path. There is the place you won’t go.

No is the opposite to yes. I.E that’s what we’ve learned.

So in short: No is a breaker. Yes is a maker. 

At least that’s what we’ve learned most of the time.Now let us get closer to this.

I am working with very sensitive people. And one of the troubles they are facing is just this: to say a clear no. To make there boundaries clear. What do you accept and what not of the other.

And why is that?

Because they were told never to say no. Because it used to mean implicitly that you are not doing the right thing. That you have to reshape your energetic boundaries and adapt to what the other want’s or does. The no come alongin your life with expactations. About you. And you were able to sense them. And made you avoid the no.

So what do I mean then by saying that it is so important to learn about the word no? That the no is just a given. Or as I heard in a family sitcom a Noop – No Option. And no more then that.

So correcting and guiding your child means for me to tell that there are ‘no’s’ in the world. That it shows of respect to treat the no well. That it has nothing to do with ‘who you are’. But that it mostly refers to an action you take which is not acceptable for the moment for whatever reason.

And there is another very important word, which comes along: trust.

Trust in the person who is saying no. That the powerful word ‘No’ is used in a correct way and not out of the urge to force something unnecessarily up to you.

The relation of this Blog with my work is this: most people I see are having trouble in putting a clear NO. For themselves. I help to re-shape the energetic boundaries by showing you the deep-rooted psychological and energetic mechanisms at work. Onze you see through them, you can work up on them. 

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